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Ruth 1:16 (KJV) And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God.


Ruth winds up in the lineage of King David. She is also in the lineage of Jesus Christ himself.  Even in the darkest of times there is always a light that shines forth. Where sin abounds, grace does much more abound. The book of Ruth is a story of the faithfulness of God in the lives of those who trust him. It is also a biblical love story. It is one of the most beautiful and romantic love stories ever written.


History tells us that Benjamin Franklin went to France. When he was there he got the chance to speak to and atheist society and through that society he had paraphrased and written out by hand the book of Ruth. He read it to that atheistic society and the people said it was so phenomenal it should be put in print.  He told them that it was already in print. They asked what he meant. He held up a Bible and said it is in this Bible that you are dedicated to destroy. They say that it broke the back of that atheistic society. I don't know all of the details but I share that story with you because I like it.


There was something that Ruth had to do to wind up with Boaz.  What was that?


1.       She Laid Aside The Thinking And The Practices Of The Moabites. 


Ruth 1:16 (KJV) And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God.


Ruth had made an obvious decision, and that decision was known by others. Her decision was trust in the true God of Israel.


Ruth 2:12 (KJV) The LORD recompense thy work, and a full reward be given thee of the LORD God of Israel, under whose wings thou art come to trust.


Ruth’s nationality might have been Moabitess, but her nature was to be godly.   The Moabites were known for their sensuality. Young ladies, if you want to attract a godly man, you will not be able to dress and act like a Moabite. The kind of dress that says, “I am available” is the wrong kind of dress.  A guy who is only interested in your looks and figure will probably be too self centered to make a good lifelong companion, provider, and protector.  Remember this: what you catch a guy with, you have to keep him with. Catch him with character and virtue and you can keep a guy with that. These kind of guys want a wife who is going to be loyal and a good mother to their children.


I want all of you young ladies to get safely to the marriage altar. If you get God's choice for a marriage partner, you can't do any better. There is something about knowing that I got God's pick for me. There is a joy and a peace in that. Otherwise you wonder, what if I had married somebody else.


Guys, if you marry someone for their pretty face and hair, what will you do when the face wrinkles and the hair turns gray?  Girls, if you get him with Moabites Midnight perfume, what is he going to do when he smells your morning breath?  Those whose primary attraction is emotional or physical will be blinded to something that may bring them great unhappiness in the future.


When Boaz first met Ruth, she was probably in the dress of a poor working woman.  She wasn’t all decked out in the latest fashions.  There was something else about her that made her attractive. Boaz was interested in a virtuous woman. 


1 Peter 3:3 (KJV) Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel. It is not wrong to dress up and fix yourself up pretty.  But what is the main adorning? 1 Peter 3:4 (KJV) But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. This is not only beautiful to God, but beautiful and attractive to the right kind of men. This is in the sight of God of great price. What is valuable to God? God owns everything. But when God sees this he looks down says wow! That is worth more than anything. God says look at that spirit. And a young man says that's the kind of spirit I want to be around. That is what I like. There is an inward beauty that surpasses outward beauty. There is a perfume of spirit that never wears off.

Girls, you can get a husband by acting like a Moabite, but you can only get a Boaz by acting like Ruth. Guys do you want to get a girl who loves you reverences you, respects you, is grateful and admires you?  Of course you do.  


1 Timothy 2:9-10 (KJV) 9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10 But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. Shamefacedness…knows how to blush.  Our society has forgotten how to blush.  Guys, if a girl can catch your eye, she is probably catching a lot of other guy’s eyes also. A girl with shamefacedness does not look deeply into another’s eyes though.  She turns away.  She doesn’t flirt. 


Proverbs 6:20-25 (KJV) 20 My son, keep thy father's commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother: 21 Bind them continually upon thine heart, and tie them about thy neck. 22 When thou goest, it shall lead thee; when thou sleepest, it shall keep thee; and when thou awakest, it shall talk with thee. 23 For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life: 24 To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman. 25 Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids.


People are playing games and people are getting hurt. Some people do this after they are married. If we are going to have a beautiful love story, we have to put away what the Moabites are doing.


2.       Ruth Kept Her Loyalty Where It Belonged Until It Came Time To Transfer That Loyalty


In this case, her loyalty was with her mother in law.  I think it is the responsibility of parents to help their children find God's choice of a mate. The most important decision of life outside of salvation is finding God’s choice for a mate. Dads, what ever you do don't do nothing. Have some rules. And empty house is a dangerous thing. The devil moves into an empty house.


Here are some ideas about how to get your children safely to the marriage altar.


A. Patience

“Marry in haste; repent at leisure.”

“Better to be married 40 years to the right person than 50 years to the wrong person.”

“It’s far better to stay single than to settle for second best.”

Patience is being content with singleness without giving God a deadline when you have to be married.

One of the very dangerous things about being single is thinking you have to get married.


God has a purpose for a single life.

The power of being single – a testimony

Their effectiveness as single people serving the Lord. Proverbs 31:1-3 (KJV) 1 The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him. 2 What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows? 3 Give not thy strength unto women…

The way God used their service to bring them together

The way both of them waited for God’s timing in their lives

God’s Purpose  +  God’s Timing  =  God’s Blessing

“The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing.”


B. Preparation


Preparation is considering no one for marriage until you are truly ready for the responsibility of marriage.

Waiting is not what God does to you, but it is His process to prepare you.

Being married to the wrong person is worse than being unmarried.


C. Purity

Purity means that a young man or young woman should seek to stand at the marriage altar with a pure body and a pure heart.


(Asking for Debbie’s hand in marriage).


D. Compatibility

Compatibility means that the couple should be the same in key areas of life while using the areas where they are different and unique to build and complete one another.


1). Created Order: Marry a person of the opposite sex.

2). Christian: 2 Corinthians 6:14 Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers

3). Commitment

4). Character

5). Convictions


The U.S. Army launched a program to teach truths about taking a spouse. Chaplains are trying to teach how to pick a spouse through a program called, “How to avoid marrying a jerk.”  Military life is stressed by two tough lord's. The program is also called P.I.C.K. a partner. It stands for premarital interpersonal choices and knowledge. It advises the marriage candidates to study their potential partner’s faces, family background, attitudes, compatibility, experiences in previous relationships, and skills they would bring to the union. They are given a R.A.M. chart which stands for Relationship Attachment Model which basically says, “Don’t let your sexual involvement exceed your level of commitment or level of knowledge about that other person.


Major Kegley who teaches the program in California says you use your heart and brain when you are choosing. He points one finger at the heart and two fingers at the brain. That is the no jerk salute. You use your brain not just your heart. The Army recognizes you can't just follow your emotions.


The Army recognizes there is a problem in this area. Isn't it time we as Christians recognize also there is a problem in this area. We have to do something about this.


Looking for an ideal,

Marry a raw deal

Marriage is an ordeal

Looking for a new deal


Our goal should be to be a one man woman or a one woman man. I know there will be mistakes, but if we have the right goal, we will cut down on the mistakes.


E. Authority

Authority means don’t do anything without the guidance of authority.


Young people, trust your authorities. Get guidance from your authorities. Naomi counseled Ruth. The response of Ruth…Ruth 3:5 (KJV) And she said unto her, All that thou sayest unto me I will do. You can be sure that Boaz saw Ruth's loyalty. Loyalty to parents easily transfers to a new marriage. So does rebellion. One of the greatest character qualities to look for in a guy or a girl is loyalty. Watch how she responds to her dad. Watch how he treats his mom. If he treats his mom with disrespect, run in the opposite direction.


Authority helps end confusion.

Authority brings blessings to your life you could not have otherwise.

Authority brings deliverance you could not have otherwise.

The right authority protects you against falling under the control of wrong authority.


3.       She Concentrated More On Who She Was Than Who He Was.


It is dangerous for young people to always walk around wondering if he or she is the one. Ruth wasn't in the field looking for a husband that day. She was fulfilling her responsibility. She was giving of her self to care for her mother-in-law. Give and it shall be given unto you is the principle here. Guys, look to meet the needs of others and God can drop a girl out of the sky with a parachute if he needs to. To concentrate more on who you are is the best way to get the right one. Ruth got a man who is spiritual, confident, concerned, kind, hospital, a protector and selfless because Ruth herself was loyal, responsible, kind, concerned, grateful, respectful and selfless. You will probably wind up with somebody like you are.


4.       She Trusted God To Work Things Out


Ruth 2:12 (KJV) The LORD recompense thy work, and a full reward be given thee of the LORD God of Israel, under whose wings thou art come to trust.


Are you under God's wings? Are you trusting God? You trusted God to save your soul, can you trust him to give you is choice for life's mate? He can take care of it you know. He is God. You can trust the Lord. He hasn't failed. He isn't failing. He won't fail in the future.


Listen to this article. Upon returning to college one fall, I moved into a new dorm room. The first time I checked my mail I saw a letter addressed to a man at 305 Scott Dr. it happened to be a guy I had met at church the previous year. I called to let him know about the mistake. I continued to receive his mail. He had to come by every few days to pick it up. I asked that man on our 10th wedding anniversary what would have happened if our addresses had not been so similar. My husband replied, God would have found some other way to get us together. It is true. You can trust God. He is on the throne. He takes care of things when people trust him.


Let me close with this thought. Redemption is a love story. Jesus willingly shed his blood so that we can be his bride. You might think it is too big of a price to get saved and give your life to him. But he didn't think it was too big of a price to give his life so that you could we saved. Will you trust him with your soul? Will you trust him with your life?

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